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New study identifies the “ideal” number of sexual partners, according to social norms

by Eric W. Dolan
July 2, 2024
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A recent study has shed light on societal double standards regarding sexual activity in men and women. The research found that society tends to view men with high sexual activity more favorably than women with high sexual activity, while women with low sexual activity are judged more positively than men with low sexual activity.

Interestingly, both genders are rated most positively when their sexual activity levels are moderate. These findings, published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, offer a nuanced view of sexual norms, suggesting that while traditional double standards persist, they are not as straightforward as previously thought.

For decades, the concept of a sexual double standard has suggested that men are socially rewarded for being sexually active, while women are often punished for the same behavior. This traditional view has been supported by numerous studies, but the results have not always been consistent.

While some studies have shown strong evidence for sexual double standards, others have found only weak or inconsistent patterns. The researchers wanted to explore these differences and determine whether there are overarching trends that could explain the discrepancies. By examining societal evaluations of sexual activity across a range of behaviors and outcomes, they sought to provide a better understanding of how these standards operate in contemporary society.

Two distinct samples were used to ensure robust and generalizable findings. The first sample consisted of young adults recruited from a medium-sized German university and the surrounding community, totaling 190 participants. The second sample included 170 German residents recruited via the online platform Clickworker.

Participants from both samples were asked to consider how society would view a 25-year-old man or woman who exhibited one of seven levels of sexual activity, ranging from very low to very high. These levels were assessed across seven different sexual outcomes: number of sex partners, number of casual sex partners, age at sexual debut, frequency of sexual intercourse, frequency of masturbation, sexual desire, and frequency of sexual fantasies.

The study confirmed several traditional views about sexual double standards while also offering new insights. One of the primary findings was that high levels of sexual activity were rated more favorably for men than for women. This result aligns with long-standing beliefs that society rewards men for being sexually active. On the other hand, low levels of sexual activity were rated more favorably for women than for men, reinforcing the idea that women are praised for sexual restraint.

A significant and novel finding was that moderate levels of sexual activity were rated most favorably for both men and women, challenging the notion that only extremes (very high for men and very low for women) are socially rewarded.

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The researchers identified an “ideal level of sexual activity” where societal evaluations were most positive. For men, the ideal number of sex partners was around 4 to 5 in their lifetime, with 2 to 3 casual sex partners, and an age of sexual debut at 18 to 20 years. They were also viewed most favorably with a frequency of sexual intercourse at 4 to 5 times per week, masturbation 3 to 4 times per week, sexual desire 3 times per day, and sexual fantasies 3 times per day.

For women, the ideal levels were lower: around 2 to 3 sex partners in their lifetime, 1 to 2 casual sex partners, and an age of sexual debut at 16 to 18 years. Women were ideally seen to have sexual intercourse 3 to 4 times per week, masturbate 2 to 3 times per week, and experience sexual desire and fantasies 2 times per day.

The researchers also explored whether deviations from the ideal level of sexual activity had asymmetric effects on societal evaluations. They found that women who exceeded the ideal level were more harshly judged than men, reinforcing the societal punishment for high sexual activity in women. But men who fell below the ideal level faced more negative evaluations than women, highlighting the societal pressure for men to be sexually active.

“There are both similarities and differences in the societal evaluation of male and female sexuality,” the researchers concluded. “People perceive that high levels of sexual activity are evaluated more positively for men than for women, while low levels of sexual activity are evaluated more positively for women than for men. However, contrary to common assumptions, moderate rather than extremely low or extremely high levels of sexual activity are most valued for both genders.”

The study’s limitations include its focus on German residents, which may limit the generalizability of the findings to other cultural contexts where sexual norms may differ. Additionally, the research concentrated on perceived societal evaluations rather than personal judgments, which might not fully capture the nuances of individual attitudes.

The study, “Sexual (Double) Standards Revisited: Similarities and Differences in the Societal Evaluation of Male and Female Sexuality,” was authored by Marcel Weber and Malte Friese.

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